Letting be is a practice of allowing emotions and thoughts to flow naturally, without trying to resist, control, or suppress them.
It’s a powerful tool for calming anxiety and nervous system overload. However, it’s important to clarify that letting be doesn’t mean you’re powerless to change your anxiety or overcome the subconscious beliefs behind it.
In fact, letting be is what *creates the space* for transformation. Without it, you remain trapped in a cycle of resistance that keeps you disconnected from the root causes of your anxiety.
When you resist anxiety or uncomfortable emotions, your mind and body go into fight-or-flight mode. Your nervous system becomes hyper-alert, and you get stuck in survival mode.
In this state, you don’t have the self-awareness needed to recognize the subconscious beliefs or negative self-talk driving your anxiety. Instead, you’re too busy trying to push away the uncomfortable feelings.
It’s like trying to have a conversation while running from a threat—you can’t hear what your mind is really saying because you’re consumed by fear.
Letting be breaks this cycle of resistance. When you stop fighting your emotions and allow yourself to feel them fully, you calm the nervous system and create an opportunity to observe your thoughts with clarity.
Only from this place of calm can you begin to recognize and address the subconscious beliefs that fuel anxiety, such as “I’m not safe,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I need to control everything to feel secure.”
Ignoring these core beliefs isn’t sustainable. When people don’t address the root cause of their anxiety, they often turn to addictions or compulsive behaviors to manage the discomfort.
Overeating, drinking, scrolling through social media, or working excessively are all attempts to numb the feelings they’re resisting. But these distractions only provide temporary relief. The underlying anxiety remains, creating a cycle of avoidance and increased distress.
Letting be doesn’t mean you resign yourself to living with anxiety forever. Instead, it’s a step toward lasting change.
By pausing the fight against your emotions, you give yourself the opportunity to examine your inner dialogue and subconscious programming. From this place of acceptance, you can begin to shift your beliefs and self-talk in a meaningful way.
Here’s how to start practicing letting be in a way that leads to real change:
1. When anxiety arises, pause and ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now?” Acknowledge the emotion without judgment or resistance.
2. Remind yourself that emotions are temporary—they will pass if you allow them to flow naturally.
3. Once you feel calmer, gently explore the thoughts behind your anxiety. Ask, “What belief is causing this emotion?” or “What am I telling myself right now that might not be true?”
4. Begin to challenge those subconscious beliefs, replacing them with more supportive thoughts like, “I can handle this,” or “I am safe in this moment.”
By letting your emotions be, you calm the chaos within, allowing self-awareness to emerge. From that awareness, real transformation can begin.
Letting be isn’t about accepting your anxiety as permanent—it’s about making room for the change you’ve been seeking. Remember you were uncomfortable emotions are loving messages sent to point towards what needs to heal in your life.
I would love to have the privilege of helping you on your healing journey. If you need help… Just reach out.
